Volume 13 March 15, 2007
Every once in a while we come across a “MUST READ ” book.
The next few weeks I am going to encourage you to read Emotionally Healthy Spiritually by Pete Scarzzero.
You will find a link to this book below.
Let me share why I think this book is IMPORTANT for you to read.
In our book, How We Love, and at our workshops, we talk a lot about the importance of knowing yourself on the inside.
We ask you to evaluate how often your parents asked you to reflect on your thoughts and feelings and share what was in your heart and soul.
If you have read our book, you know that your growing up years either gave you lots of practice at revealing your thoughts, feeling and reactions or perhaps you had little opportunity to learn these skills.
Remember, if you don’t know what you FEEL, you won’t know what you NEED.
If you don’t know what you NEED, it is IMPOSSIBLE to find relief in relationship with your spouse.
You will look for relief in non relational ways.
You may even be struggling with an addiction as a result.
ALL addictions are an attempt to get legitimate needs met in ways that end up being destructive.
So, let’s say you read our book, and earnestly spend time doing the workbook.
You will greatly improve your self awareness and reflection skills as well as develop your ability to communicate your feeling, thoughts and needs.
You will be a better listener and be more aware of reaching into the heart and soul of those you love with an ability to “find out more.”
So, how will all this affect your spiritual life?
This is where Pete’s book comes in.
His premise is this:
Maturity as a Christian is linked to emotional healthiness.
Here is a excerpt from the back cover of his book:
“Peter Scazzero learned the hard way: you can’t be spiritually mature while remaining emotionally immature.
Even though he was pastor of a growing church, he did what most people do:
- Avoid conflict in the name of Christianity
- Ignore anger, sadness and fear
- Use God to run from God
- Die to the wrong things.
- Live without boundaries.
In fact, his wife QUIT the church.
She did not ask for a divorce. She just quit the church because in her experience, it was bringing her “death, not life.”
Next week I’ll share further why I think this book is a must read.
Here is the link to get this extremely valuable book:
Emotionally Healthy Spirituality: Unleash the Power of Authentic Life in Christ That question screamed at Pastor Peter Scazzero when his church and marriage hit bottom and every Christian remedy produced nothing but anger and fatigue. As he began digging under the "good Christian" veneer, he uncovered entire emotional layers of his life that God had not yet touched. Discovering that his emotional immaturity had fed his spiritual immaturity, Scazzero experienced a spiritual revolution by biblically integrating emotional health and contemplative spirituality. In Emotionally Healthy Spirituality, Scazzero unveils what's wrong with our conventional means of "spiritual growth" and offers seven biblical, reality-tested, transformational steps that will help you live out your faith with authenticity, awareness, and a hunger for God. |
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NEXT WEEK:
More of Kay's tips on improving your relationships: "Fuel for the LOVE Tank "
Love,
Milan and Kay
Fuel for the Love Tank:
Look your spouse in the eye and tell them something you really appreciate about them.
Give them a hug and kiss afterward.
NEW!! NEW!! NEW!!
Check out our website: www.howwelove.com and click the
"Video - Milan and Kay Talk About How We Love" link.
You will be taken to a page where you can view a video about our book and another video of one of our Television appearances.
Please be patient - the video about our book takes less than a minute to load, the TV interview takes approximately 2 minutes or more to load.
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If you have already taken our survey - THANK YOU!! You people are GREAT!!!
We are getting some VERY good and useful information that we will use to help us write our book!!!
We hope that you enjoyed our previously unpublished document The Value of Virginity, Monogamy and Sexual Fidelity.
If you have not yet taken our survey please read on!!
Milan and I are currently doing research for our next book “How We Love – Sexually”.
We need some help – we are conducting a survey on “How We Love – Sexually”.
Dont worry....your name will NOT be emblazoned in print for thousands of readers to know about what you do in the bedroom!!
We would love for you to take our survey “How We Love – Sexually” and be assured that your name will never be used. ALL survey questionnaires are ANONYMOUS. That’s right your name is never used – in fact you don’t give us your name at all.
Also there is no way of tracking who answered the survey.
You see we want completely honest answers to some personal questions. By guaranteeing that you will remain completely anonymous we can expect honesty in return.
The survey is very short and can be completed in less than 5 minutes.
After you answer the survey you will be helping not only us but others who suffer from personal issues. These issues and more will be addressed in our upcoming book “How We Love – Sexually”.
You will also receive advance results from the survey so that you can benefit from the knowledge that you are NOT alone in How We Love - Sexually.
As a thank you for helping us we have an unpublished document that we would like to give you, entitled The Value of Virginity, Monogamy and Sexual Fidelity.
After you fill out the survey - simply press the "Click When Finished " button at the end of the questions and you will be directed to a page where you will be able to download The Value of Virginity, Monogamy and Sexual Fidelity.
To help us and receive your gift please click here: How We Love Sexually - Survey
(Make sure that you answer ALL of the questions - if you do not see the "Thank You" page after clicking the button
review your questions - you have probably not answered one or more)
Thanks
Milan and Kay
We will be appearing at the following locations:
Upcoming Workshops and Seminars:
MOPS & POPS Banquet (Mothers of Pre-Schoolers)
Glenkirk Presbyterian Church, Glendora CA (Milan & Kay)
Contact Info: Glenkirk Presbyterian Church, 1700 East Palopinto, Glendora, CA 91741 (626) 914-4833 (Milan & Kay).
Friday 6PM – 10PM,
March 16, 2007
Friday Night New Life Ministries “Relationships Reframed”
Cincinnati, OH, Vineyard Church (Milan and Kay and Steve Arterburn).
Info: www.newlife.com or 1 800 NEW LIFE.
March 23, 2007
How We Love …Sexually (a sexual intimacy workshop).
Coast Hills Church, 5 Pursuit, Aliso Viejo, CA.
Saturday 9AM- 3PM. (Milan & Kay).
March 31, 2007
How We Love Workshop
Registration & Host Contact Information: Our Savior Lutheran Church 4519 112th St. East, Tacoma, WA 98446 (253) 531-2112.
Saturday 9 AM – 3 PM (Milan & Kay)
April 21, 2007
How We Love,( a one hour presentation during a Family Night event) (Milan and Kay)
Presbyterian Church of the Master, Mission Viejo, CA
Contact Info: Church office @ 949-582-2670.
May 2, 2007
New Life Ministries, Healing Is A Choice, Couples Group Counselors, (Milan and Kay and Steve Arterburn)
Dallas, Texas,
Info: www.newlife.com or 1-800-NEW-LIFE.
May 4-6, 2007
Friday Night New Life Ministries “Relationships Reframed”
Seattle, WA, Cedar Park Church, Bothell WA (Milan and Kay and Steve Arterburn)
Info: www.newlife.com or 1 800 NEW LIFE.
June 15, 2007
Thursday Night New Life Ministries “Relationships Reframed”
Washington, DC, McLean Bible Church, VA (Milan and Kay and Steve Arterburn)
Info: www.newlife.com or 1 800 NEW LIFE.
July 26, 2007
New Life Cruise, Canada and New England.
Info: www.newlife.com or 1 800 NEW LIFE.
Sept. 22-29, 2007
Saturday Night New Life Ministries “Relationships Reframed”
Boston, Mass., location to be announced (Milan and Kay and Steve Arterburn).
Info: www.newlife.com or 1 800 NEW LIFE.
Sept. 29, 2007
RADIO APPEARANCES (Subject to change):
New Life Ministries Radio, Los Angeles area, KKLA 99.5 FM, 2 PM daily Mon – Fri.
Check www.newlife.com for nationwide listing of radio stations and times in your area as well as daily hosts.
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Go to www.relationship180.com for details.
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Understanding your relationships is probably one of the MOST important tasks that you can do to improve your life.
To help you understand your relationships we have written the book :
| How We Love: A Revolutionary Approach to Deeper Connections in Marriage |
| How We Love Workbook: Making Deeper Connections in Marriage |
To get your own copy of the book and the accompanying workbook click on the following links:
| How We Love: A Revolutionary Approach to Deeper Connections in Marriage |
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How We Love Workbook: Making Deeper Connections in Marriage
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NOTE: Both books have SOLD OUT the first printings and have just completed their second printings they are now IN STOCK in the publishers warehouse on the east coast. Local back orders should be filled very soon.
Thanks to all of you for your support.