Stories and Testimonials
What People are Saying About the Book "How We Love" by Milan and Kay Yerkovich
"This book offers simple yet profound insights for improving the way you relate, and thus the way you and your spouse relate. The principles will help transform suffering relationships, and they will offer icing on the cake for thriving relationships. Milan and Kay offer you ways to change that are completely doable, and bring great results. The principles also apply to your other relationships. I love this book!"
Laura K. Wright - October 27, 2006
"After reading just a few chapters of How We Love, I got the distinct impression that someone had been following me around, reading my mail, and using me as subject material for a book. Milan and Kay show great insight into the intricate "dance" of our relationship with our spouse. Although much of the information in their book is gleened from other sources, they have woven that information, their personal experiences, and examples from therapy sessions into a wonderful tool to improve the relationship between a husband and wife. Reading this book has prompted new conversations relating to our past, and our family relationships."
Steve Gick - April 29, 2007
"I purchased this book set for my husband (&I) for Christmas. I also bought a large blank journal book. We have been working through each chapter of the book/workbook while answering in the journal (me on the right and my hubby on the left). It has been PIVITOL in our relationship and has really helped us change the way we not only relate to each other, but has helped reframe our total thinking & forgiving process. If you are going to start somewhere - this is the place to do it. Milan is also featured on "New Life Live" radio - and he is the 'real deal.' It will be the best money you have ever spent!"
S.Click - April 13, 2007
This Book Will Get You & Your Marriage in Great Shape!
"I was on the bike this morning in the gym reading How We Love. I typically go for 25 minutes, but I couldn't put the book down. I kept hitting "5 more minutes....5 more minutes..." Just like working out, if you want to see results in your marriage, you need to not only go to the gym, but you need to watch what you eat. Gym + eating right = a slimmer, toner body.
Understanding how you love + how your spouse loves = a loving relationship based on sharing mutual needs & comfort. When couples work through this book and the workbook together, the results are better marriages and more loving families.
Milan & Kay have written a wonderful, insightful book that will change you, your marriage and every willing couple who reads it. I know dozens of couples who have benefitted from their counseling, insights, and authentic marriage that models a Christ-centered love. Walking out of the gym, I tripped on the stairs leading out of the gym. Fortunately, I was holding Milan & Kay's book in my right hand and as the spine of the book firmly landed on the next stair, it saved me from a serious faceplant on the steps.
I know there's a lesson there for me and everyone who reads this wonderful book.
Here's to understanding how we love and how to become better lovers in our marriage!"
Josehep O'Connor - November 13, 2006
Brillant! A Must-Read Not Only For Couples, But Also Marriage Therapists and Lay Counselors.
"This is one of the most brilliant marriage books I've read. Rather than oversimplifying marriage problems as a lack of love or respect, Milan and Kay invite the reader to go deeper than surface issues and explore patterns of relating that can often be traced back as early as the first year of life. Drawing from Harville Hendrix's Imago Relationship theory, Milan & Kay frame How We Love within a Christian context and lay out practical interventions that couples can integrate into their relationships. I also highly recommend the workbook to help readers internalize on a practical level what they are reading in the book. The caring, helpful tone of the book almost makes it feel as if you have your very own therapist walking with you every step of the way. Brilliant. A must-read not only for couples, but also marriage therapists and lay counselors."
JMT, "Jac" - October 29, 2007
3 Year Old Christopher's Story
"I thought you might enjoy this anecdote...I purchased "How We Love" and am most of the way through it. The concepts presented are very insightful indeed.
Anyway, my 3 year old, Christopher, picked up the book and looked through it for pictures. He found the on p. 272-273 demonstrating Touch and Nurture. He was very drawn to them and immediately, he wanted to practice holding that way. First he wanted me to hold him. Then he wanted to hold me. And, we talked about how nice it felt to be held like that. It was a very interesting experience having my 3 year old "lead" me in this exercise. He tells me that he wants to practice this again.
After that, Christopher told me he was going to "read" the book to me. I said ok as he flipped through the pages. He stopped and said, "here are some questions that Mommy can answer". I looked at the page--it was the list of "listener questions" on page 257. I agreed that yes, these were questions I could answer. Then he flipped some more pages and stopped again. This time on page 290. As I looked down and saw the prayer printed there, I heard Christopher saying "Dear God, thank you for the things we learn...."
I must say here, that Christopher does not read or write yet....we're still working to conquer the ABC's verbally and have only begun a little to try to recognize them in written form. His comments were truly out of the blue....but so surprising."